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Each time we meet with a client, we are given a glimpse into their internal world. Like the pages of a book, each session reveals something new, expands on material that preceded it, or give us an intimation of what's to come. Unlike a book, however, we have no idea...

Uncertainty is a most uncomfortable feeling for both clients and therapists alike. Clients want answers, and therapists want to provide. Both in and out of therapy, human beings are meaning-making organisms. We need the world to make sense, and when it doesn't we feel...

Therapy is a messy business. It is the exploration of dark alleys, the turning over of stones, the grappling with uncertainty. It is the discovery of what you always knew but didn't have the words to describe. The process of therapy asks us to make contact with more...

When do we stop being able to have real conversations? Ironically, I would submit, just as we are learning to speak. As we become able to verbalize our thoughts and feelings, we become aware of ourselves, aware that we exist separate from the world around us. We...

When most of us think about unconditional love, we believe that what we are seeking is someone who will love us no matter what. Someone who will see past our flaws, rejoice in our uniqueness, and accept us as we are. When we find someone who meets these criteria, for...

It can be painful when a plan does not go as one hoped. A lot of thought and preparation might have gone into it. There may have been an investment of time and effort, and a fantasy as to how the plan would unfold. How is one to make sense of the disappointment that...

There is much overlap between our relationship with a therapist and that with a friend. In fact, there is a thread of commonality that runs between all of our close relationships. What distinguishes the therapeutic relationship however from any other is that it is...

As we move through life we encounter a plethora of transitions, each of varying magnitude and complexity, some more easily navigated than others. The key I think is in the extent to which the place we are going seems more attractive than the place we've left behind....

What does it mean to be a therapist? There is a lot of education and training that goes into becoming a therapist. So much so that we might inadvertently find ourselves identifying with the role of a therapist, the persona more than the person. Certainly there is a...

Therapy is a place where you can be yourself and the person across from you wants nothing more. In fact, the more of you, the better. It's a place where you don't have to edit or downplay how you feel. The rules of typical social engagement don't apply. This is your...